Okay men and women, no apologies for my long absence, just back to work. I am considering the idea of starting a love advice column - What do ya think? Keep in mind that I'm forever single. I may not know much about love but I do know you aren't supposed to smother someone.
My scenario - woman meets man, has great day and rather pleasant night together. Attraction is mutual. Woman crowds said man into small corner of the bed with one arm wrapped around him and other hand drawing constant circles on man's back, arms, neck, etc. Woman wants sex in the middle of the night but can't wake up man so gets up and runs into walls pretending she can't find her way to the bathroom. Man does not find this amusing and would tell woman to go home if her car was there. Man is too lazy to get up and take woman to car. Later, woman wakes man up with demand that he open his eyes, look at her and say her name. Man is not ready to wake up, let alone open his eyes and act like a puppet. Man pleased with the kind way he dispenses this information to woman. Woman won't let it go, grabs man face and turns towards her - man is getting pissed. Man is disappointed because he really liked this woman but is quickly growing weary of her not honoring his boundaries. He tells woman that he would appreciate some space and pushing him will only make him run a way. Woman says she understands but accuses him of not opening his eyes because he is sorry she is there. Man wasn't sorry but is quickly adopting that attitude. Woman asks man twenty times if he wants to see her again. Man agrees to see woman the following night. Woman calls later and despite poor phone connection asks extremely personal questions and man has to repeat himself five times. Finally, man tells woman that questions are inappropriate for the phone and he is feeling uncomfortable. Woman won't get off phone so man tells her he is busy on computer and needs to let her go. Man kindly tells woman that pushing him so hard will make him run a way and that he would hate to do that. Woman says she understands but later writes e-mail accusing man of being busy on computer with match.com because he forgot to log off after writing her a quick, yet sweet note, earlier. Woman unhappy with brevity of note - feels like man is being cold. Man thought his effort would be appreciated, now sees isn't good enough. Man later receives message from woman that she will be at a certain place at a certain time. Man irritated by this presumption but decides to go and see if they can reach some sort of compromise. Woman crowds man when they meet and accuses him of being cold and uncaring. Man tells woman that he is disappointed but this is not working because he isn't having any fun what so ever. Man thinks the first few days of a relationship should be easy, fun and happy. Woman promises to go away.
Men and women, heed this man's advice, DON'T SMOTHER. Respect and honor boundaries, give person room to breathe and come to you. Let the relationship unfold, don't force it. Be confidant and respect yourself and the other person.
One big Hoorah to Mr. Pioneer for the ability to post photos on our blogs! Even in the comments - that one caught me off guard and had me wondering who put pictures of puppies on my blog.
Computer should be here by the end of next week. Then I'll be back to stalking full-time.
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